Just Don't Care

Not sure if this is a problem or not. I've noticed that in general, for most things, I just don't care. Apathy is " Feeling or showing a lack of interest or concern; indifferent. " While I tend to believe that this isn't a problem I have noticed that it annoys the crap out of most people. Now don't get me wrong - there are topics that I am extremely sensitive about (see below) but just about everything else is kinda "ehh" whatever. See I have noticed that most people actually care about almost everything - from what they eat for lunch to what color to paint the wall in the house. I don't. Unless I have a strong distaste for something it just doesn't matter to me. I guess I have conditioned myself to just do whatever because somebody else almost always cares about it more then I do and more often then not, the simple fact that they are happy makes me happy.

Here is a short list of the items I actually care about:
1) Nichole - absolutely nothing in this world I value more, I really would do anything for her.
2) Infidelity - why the hell are you with the person if you can't be faithful.
3) Drugs or smoking - never & my family better not either :)
4) Truthfulness - I hate lying & I hate being lied to - it eats at me big time.
5) Family - as miserable as they can make me I still love them.
6) Capital Punishment - yup, I support it, less murderous fools out there the better. Sorry.
7) Abortion - Right to choose. I can't as a man, ever say that a woman has no choice, if you can't trust her with a choice, how can you trust her with a child (exception: late term abortion).
8) Mayonnaise or Sour Cream - just hate them, not sure exactly why
9) Moochers - been on the bad end of this so many times it drives me nuts!
10) Immigrants - I welcome those with open arms that have come legally. Those here illegally should be thrown out without a second thought (and punish the hell out of the companies that employ them).
11) U.S. Soldiers - support them 100% no matter what war we are fighting - they just follow orders and have the greatest respect from me for putting their life on the line for our country.

Here are a few things I will never get tired of doing:
1) Eating - damn I love eating, just about anytime (stupid belly). And surprise - I don't really care where we go to eat.
2) Watching movies - wasted many many hours doing this. Surprise again! I like all kinds of movies so I don't care here either! Argh!!! :)
3) Sex - well duh! I'm a guy right? Well, I know a male's sexual peak is supposed to be 18 but I don't know where they came up with that. I'm always in the mood, never gonna say no, and don't see that changing in the next 60 years.
4) Cuddling - Time can just blow away when cuddling with my sweetheart. I can just lay there, talking or no talking, for hours on end.

Course then again... I think I might just have severe ADD. Speaking of... Checkout this website, has a lot of good info on it (http://www.newhorizons.org/spneeds/adhd/kroplick.htm).

Worthwhile Arguments

So I was thinking about it the other day and it seems to me that people expect to argue.... and to go above that, they actually want to argue. I live in a familiy that argues all the time and to be honest I am soooo glad to not really have that issue with Nicki. We've talked about it a few times and we agree that an argument is enevitable but we haven't really yet. There are those times (yup you guessed it... once a month... lol) that she may be on edge, or me for that matter (get grouchy when tired) -- however, pretty much unscathed in my book. Since I have grown up with arguing and spent a very long relationship mostly arguing I can say that the last two months of relative calm have been supreme. I don't miss it one bit. Now, time to delve into arguments more.

The most commonly used definition of an argument is "A discussion in which disagreement is expressed; a debate; A quarrel; a dispute." Quarrel being the key word here. Why is it that we sometimes just enjoy quarrelling? Why do we expect to do so? I theorize that many of us are basically programmed (especially in the U.S.) that quarrel and competition are the only way in life. Happiness through the defeat of your foes! #2 is first place LOSER right? I've been fighting with my sis & other family members in the last couple weeks and you now what I have gotten out of it? Nothing good... only stress with makes me unhappy. There were several weeks before that in which I didn't fight or complain or argue and it was great.

So when there is a couple that "never" argues they are looked at oddly - as if there is something wrong with them. I've gone from a relationship that argued all the time to one that doesn't and while it does seem "odd" I am perfectly happy with it. There is no harm in discussing issues at hand or putting forth you point of view but why take it to the argument level? There are so many things in life that just arn't worth getting worked up about. Perhaps a good quote is, " “The best thing for an argument is not words and ideas, but to stop arguing”

NWA to Cali? Nah!

Wonderful Sunny, Warm, Califronia! Well... maybe not sunny or warm... but California it was. Just got back from an excellent trip out to California for the weekend. Nicki had a business trip out there today so we decided to make a weekend out of it and visit the coastal waters of the pacific (real hard to twist arms you could imagine :) I headed out on Thursday night after work on NorthWorst Airlines - the mother of all crappy airlines.... lets digress, NWA seems to have fallen into the "Ha ha, we are the only airline to offer any real flights out of Detroit so you are all screwed and we can do whatever we want!" attitude. Now, I wasn't berated or missed a flight or even delayed, but, if you are on a 4.5hour flight I would think certain comforts should be provided. Umm, like what? Well, peanuts for god sakes! Or Pretzels! Come On! You telling me that they can't afford peanuts!? A pillow would be nice... so would a blanket... cause you might need one of those at 30,000ft when the pilot lets what seems to be air from straight outside flow in the cabin. And most of all... I WANT MY MOVIE!! No movie!? One can only handle a flight so long without a movie. Well, maybe I thought, I am not alone. All the other airlines are in trouble too right? So, as much as I didn't desire that fate on my sweetheart, misery loves company..... but wait.... not true.... she got a movie, in fact two movies! And a pillow and blankets! Argh! Damn Northworst! Stupid airline.... grumble grumble.

K... all done there... just kidding anyways, slept most of the way and I brought my own movies, but it was still cold on that plane :)

Hmm... time to get off work... write more later Ciao! :)

Whats in a month?

One month...... or 31 days (in the month I am referring to for you picky people :)..... or 744 hours.... or 44,640 minutes..... or 2,678,400 seconds..... the length of time that I have been the happiest man alive. Why one month? Because that is how long I have been with the Sweetest, Smartest, most beautiful young lady in the world. For those who are hiding in the no communication zone I am referring to Nichole Arden (hopefully that will change someday :) When someone asks me why I love her so much its actually hard to me to say why..... not because I can't find the right words... but because there are SO MANY right words.

She is “the one who makes life come to life”, she is my definition of my soulmate, my perfect match.... my everything. Through the broken road and back home to where my heart has always been, my heart will forever be intertwined with hers. She is all that and so much, much more. She is a pillar of strength, pulling out all my good traits that I have been missing for so many years. I've been a broken puzzle for a long time, lost and unsure of myself, and she was the only one who knew how to make all the pieces come together. My glass is now half full, I am confident in my decisions, I smile everyday, I am truly happy again, and above all she makes me want to be a better person - and even feel like a better person. Are we perfect? For each other you bet we are :) ..... and I look forward to many, many, many, more anniversaries to come.

I LOVE YOU NICHOLE!!! HAPPY ONE MONTH ANNIVERSARY!!

Old Will

I was looking through some of my old documents and found a "will" that I wrote some time ago.... kinda interesting so I figured what the heck... put it online for everyone to see :)

Btw... the new will is simple..... everything goes to Nicki cause I know that 1) She won't keep anything that she shouldn't and 2) She knows me best & would do the right thing. Hee hee :)

*OLD WILL*

Let see, important stuff that I think should go around to those I love are as follows.

1) My house (8914 Park Ave) in Allen Park, MI - should be given to my sis, with the stipulation she cannot sell it until she gets her 4-year college degree.
2) Pets – Orion, my ever so faithful “son”. Trust me everyone, this was an impossible decision! After much thinking I decided that Brian Parrish should get Orion. Brian is the best person for the job. He’s the coolest, most jolly guy I know and the only one who will scratch Orion’s butt for hours on end -- Brian knows what I mean J Alphabet fish goes to Robyn since she saved his life more then once.
3) My Cars – the Bravada to Rob, F-150 will go to my sis, the best thing to use for her horse and to get around in the winter. The BMW will go to mom, cause I know she’ll love saying she has a Beamer. If the Camaro is still around then Ted Kennedy gets it… have fun in your cool cop glasses man!
4) The Big Screen TV – my lovely 61’ RCA in the living room will go to Robyn since Ernie already has one (sorry bud).
5) Movies - Ted gets everything that isn’t “R” rated so he can watch them all with his family. The rest go to sis, any that duplicate with hers go to mom.
6) Electronics/Computers – Ernie gets first pick, though I imagine I don’t have anything that he wants. Robyn gets second pick.
7) My Bed – since Valerie was the original one to buy it, she should get it J
8) Asian theme room – all the other stuff items in my living room go to Dad (since I did take a few of his paintings to help make it all happen). I hope he makes good use of it and creates a room just like it in his house. He can give it to sis if she ends up keeping the house and he doesn’t want it.
9) Weapons – Robert gets all the weapons; swords, knives, guns, etc. (with the exception of the Asian stuff in the living room). Have fun!
10) Big Leather Couch – goes to Doug Bourne… he needs a nice couch! Mom gets 2^nd pick.
11) Other TV’s – Ted keeps the one in his room, Doug gets the one in my room.
12) Other stuff – knick knacks are as follows:
a. Movie posters, pictures, or anything beer/party related goes to Brentt Brunner (my party bud).
b. Music CD’s – all go to Brentt…. Duplicates go to Robyn
C. The pictures go to Valerie since she is the artistic one.
d. Futon goes to Paige
e. Tools, etc in garage stay with the house if its kept, otherwise Mom. Rob gets 2^nd pick.
f. Extra beds go back to mom, robyn gets 2^nd pick.
g. Robyn gets to sort through my memory boxes and give pieces out to who she thinks should best get it.