Conundrum

Alrighty... in thinking mode now... A Conundrum is defined in the dictionary as " A paradoxical, insoluble, or difficult problem; a dilemma". What brought this up is a recent situation with my fiancee. You see she loves her kid and loves her to no end. Firstly, let me say that it is completely awesome that she loves this kid so much, truly a wonderful mom. My problem is that she is making it a prerequisite to recieve her love based on whether I love the kid or not. As a result, her affections towards me are somewhat supressed (she is "waiting" for me to love her kid). This would be where the catch-22 situation kicks in. I love her to death but I'm starting to see my own affections towards her decline over the recent weeks. I have thought about it a lot and besides the standard figuring out the many compromises that we need to do to live together forever I am feeling like I am not that important to her. Why? I think its because 1) I see her love that little rascal to death and 2) at the same time her affections towards me are limited and as a result it makes me feel like I am more of a resource then a desired mate. Are my affections waning for self-preserving purposes (don't want to get hurt)? Good question. I'm at a loss as to what to do. More later... stupid phone at work is ringing.... do these people think I am her to work and to solve their problems?!